The Dervish is now almost 7... a lot of years since the marble incident of the marble in the store and honestly, my memory isn't good enough to recollect every incident between the day he came home and now.
The big thing with my beautiful intellegent sweet child is his rapid fire emotions. He has ALWAYS been like that. The seemingly smallest inperfection in his day can send him into a tailspin that could go on for hours and the scariest part is that he dominos into a downward spiral.
Not only is he not getting the cookie but that translates into never getting another cookie as long as he lives and that everyone around him will get cookies all the time but he never will and then he may never even get food again and on top of that.. no one likes him and he'll have to spend the rest of his life in his room.
This became such a concern to us that we took him to the doctor. At the doctor's office my Dervish asked me about his health card. I explained that it let the doctors know that he was who he was and that his visit to the doctor would be paid for. So he asked "so it's my card?" I replied that it was but knowing where this was going I quickly added that I needed to hold on to it until he was older.... then the tantrum started, he went bezerk right there in the office over not being able to carry his health card. After a few minutes of futile trying to calm him a woman came in carrying a sleeping baby. I quickly put that to use and said "shhh... baby is sleeping". He stopped instantly, like water on a fire it was out.
The doctor suggested that we send him to his room for a couple of hours and that would put an end to the tantrums. I decided that the doctor wasn't an expert on child development and made a mental note to try the pediatrician.
I believe that children need to express their emotions, that denying the feelings .. no matter what they are is denying them the ability to be themselves. more on this later.
My Roller Coaster Kid - Parenting the Emotionally Intense Child
Comments
Thu, 29.04.2010 08:12
THANK YOU! My son is 5 and has been a pretty emotional child. My father-in-law passed away about a year and half ago and [...]
Thu, 11.03.2010 14:08
EVERYONE PLEASE LISTEN. Now that I have your attention. My 2nd grader is currently being bullied by his teacher. [...]
Wed, 17.02.2010 09:05
I know you posted this forever ago, but if you're still out there I would love to here how things turned out, if the [...]
Wed, 10.02.2010 18:47
if teachers were paid an appropriate salary for the level of education and effort required, you could get rid of these [...]
Wed, 16.12.2009 07:53
I have a 7 yr old step daughter that comes from a mother who has alot a mental health issues, tho my daughter seems to [...]
Tue, 27.10.2009 10:48
Child Behavior Modification is so tough. There are moments that yelling at them is not enough. Tantrums in toddlers [...]
Thu, 17.09.2009 16:26
I appreciate your sharing of this situation and applaud your directness with the principle that your goal is to remove [...]
Sat, 29.08.2009 17:03
Hi there, I am totally with you with the no spanking. I was telling my mum the other day about my 2.4yr old son hitting [...]
Mon, 06.04.2009 20:06
My seven year old son cries alot. I can completly relate with the parent. It is something you worry about when [...]
Tue, 24.02.2009 16:31
This is great stuff! My husband and I were wondering what was happenig to our son who just turned 7. He was very tough [...]
Sat, 03.01.2009 23:49
Thanks for the article, It was important to hear the part about not bottling up emotions otherwise later in life, that [...]
Wed, 24.12.2008 00:11
my two year old daughter cries all the time and i don't know what is wrong.she gets up at night and scamming and then [...]
Wed, 12.11.2008 21:10
I did this one time, my kids had slept over at a friend's house and were up 'til all hours and super crabby the next [...]
Sat, 04.10.2008 18:55
We are in a similar situation. I am curious what the outcome was?
Fri, 11.07.2008 11:54
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