Parenting An Intense Child Comments

Making a difference!: The Teacher is a Bully

nospam@example.com (Making a difference!) — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 15:28:12 -0700

In regards to the sentiment that teachers are in the lower 25% of college graduates, being an educator makes me a member of one of the most intelligent professions. Teachers have to be knowledgeable in spelling, english, math, history, etc...we don't have one have one subject or skill set to master but several! I do not have the luxury of not doing my job and knowing that I can pick up the slack when I return...I have a career that demands I give my very best everyday and its evident when my children pass their tests.

In addition to teaching students, we have to love them, counsel them, console them, provide them with guidance, etc...More times than not I find myself being more of a parent to my students than their actual guardians are.

Its very easy to sit back and throw stones at a profession you obviously no very little about. I would love for some of you people to come manage a classroom with 25-30 students and actually teach them! Some parents cannot even handle their own child, let alone being able to manage and teach 25+ other kids. Being an educator is not easy, but it is not the sole responsibility of a public school teacher to raise a child. It would be nice if students came ready to learn everyday...meaning they are fed, clean, and come from a loving family so they can focus on learning. I most certainly did not choose to be a teacher because I 'couldnt be in charge anywhere else'. I am not sure what country or planet that you are on, but no one becomes a teacher to be in control. A ridiculous statement from an uneducated person!

I agree that there are some horrible teachers out here and they are in the wrong professions. But please don't showcase your ignorance by using asinine blanket statements. By opening your mouth, you completely just removed all doubt...

You should most certainly talk to that teacher first, and if there are no results definitely seek out the administrator. However, also make sure that you check yourself as a parent. Often times students clown in class and misbehave because their parents have failed to discipline them and raise them to respect authority. If you know that you do not fall in the category of a slacker parent, then address the issue at hand and be an advocate for your child.

It takes many positive role models in a childs life to raise them to be successful and productive adults! If a teacher is bullying your child, then they should be handled in a swift and firm manner...if a person can't handle being around children and doesnt know how to be flexible and understanding, then they shouldnt be in a classroom. I feel bad for all the children out there with teachers like the ones describe in these postings. Hopefully your children will not let the actions of these teachers deter them from enjoying school. There are bad apples in every profession but please blame the person and not the whole group!

Tanya: Tears and Tantrums

nospam@example.com (Tanya) — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 08:59:22 -0700

Thank you, we're not alone! My daughter will be 5 soon and she's crying ALL THE TIME at school. The teachers are confused and we have no idea what could be wrong. She's happy and a good kid so when she's crying for no reason, we're lost. My husband just called me to say we need to call her doctor because he dropped her off at school and watched her from behind a wall. She sat down and started bawling...again. I'm glad I'm not alone in my frustration and there are resources that will help me figure this out

Michelle: Tears and Tantrums

nospam@example.com (Michelle) — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 08:12:24 -0700

THANK YOU! My son is 5 and has been a pretty emotional child. My father-in-law passed away about a year and half ago and he has gotten progressively worse. For example this morning, his was eating cereal and my 6 yr old daughter grapped the box so she could eat before school. He started crying, which lasted at least 10 minutes, and saying he was going to die. As his parents my husband and I are very concerned and are going to take him to the doctor to see if there is something more going on. I just wanted to thank you for this site, and to all that shared, now we know that we are not alone in our frustration and worry.

No tolerance mom: The Teacher is a Bully

nospam@example.com (No tolerance mom) — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:08:11 -0700

EVERYONE PLEASE LISTEN. Now that I have your attention. My 2nd grader is currently being bullied by his teacher. After months of hints & notions that something was wrong and trying to address the teacher's issues toward my son. I gave up & spent a couple of weeks speaking with the guidance counselor, no luck their either. So I set up a meeting with the principal, asst principal & guidance counselor. I new this would not be taken with a smile so I prepared for the worse, did research prepared packets for later reading with highlighted points (by the way I went to this meeting alone, NEVER do this, ALWAYS bring a witness). Well in the meeting they basically all told me to go to hell. You know what I did, I screamed & cried to a friend for an hour, then cried to my mom for 3 hours, then I called the board of education & stated that my concerns were not being addressed. She stated that she would call me back after a little investigation. Well I haven't spoken with her yet, but lo & behold the very next morning I received a conference call from the principal, asst principal, & guidance counselor (with a very calm tone which was completely the opposite if the previous day) & told me that she was instructed to let me know that the situation will be looked into, the classroom will be monitored & if I have any concerns I am urged to contact herself or the asst principal to address them. Yay VICTORY! Now I need to contact to BOE & thank the caring sole who took the time to help my son & also get with them on changing a couple procedures on preventative measures on teacher bullyiing, as well as some additional measures for reporting this type of thing. Wish me luck & GOOD LUCK to all of you. Lesson learned "Everyone has a boss, if no resolve go higher up."

Amanda: ADHD - Concerta - Puberty - Mood Swings - OH MY

nospam@example.com (Amanda) — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:05:51 -0700

I know you posted this forever ago, but if you're still out there I would love to here how things turned out, if the mood swings went away, if you had to lower the dose, etc... I am going through the exact same thing as you and I am wondering if my child is ever going to fell normal again after 2x his dose.

mara: The Teacher is a Bully

nospam@example.com (mara) — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 18:47:56 -0700

if teachers were paid an appropriate salary for the level of education and effort required, you could get rid of these awful teachers. good people would want the jobs. but now, educators come from the bottom 25% of college graduates and with that comes people that could never be in charge any where else. and we give our children to them ....

Maegan Whitehead: Tears and Tantrums

nospam@example.com (Maegan Whitehead) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 07:53:23 -0700

I have a 7 yr old step daughter that comes from a mother who has alot a mental health issues, tho my daughter seems to not have the bypolar im scared because of all these episodes of crying im starting to think that its not that she's trying to get her way anymore she just cries for no reason and i feel it's only getting worse! she lays in bed at night and what triggers it is that she will ask for something and when she is told no she lays in bed and cries for atleast an hour at a time, the last two nights have been really rough, she's mean to every friend she has and most of the time she really doesn't have anyone to play with. Is this something i may address with the doctor to get some help!!

Tantrum Toddlers Researcher: Tears and Tantrums

nospam@example.com (Tantrum Toddlers Researcher) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 10:48:06 -0700

Child Behavior Modification is so tough. There are moments that yelling at them is not enough. Tantrums in toddlers start when they want something which they cannot get or even when you do what they don't want to.

The best way to deal with toddlers tantrums is to create the best activities that are fun and educational. You have to remember that at this is the stage, child adopts all things that happen around him. This is also the best time to allow your child into different activities.

: The Teacher is a Bully

nospam@example.com () — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 16:26:50 -0700

I appreciate your sharing of this situation and applaud your directness with the principle that your goal is to remove this "teacher" from his position and not just protect your child. My son had a 4th grade teacher who was frankly threatened by my son's intellegence and any time my son would question something (he always did so by raising his hand or asking privately as to respect his teacher) he was told he was arguing and the teacher went as far as to mark him down on what he said was a gramatical error on a paper and my son was right. Then, when I went to the school to discuss it with his teacher told the class the next week when there was a question about whether or not something was accurate "Maybe we should ask ******* and he can go home and talk to his mommy about it." My son begged me not to go to the school and I was so angry at this blatent humiliation in front of his class but my son knew it would just make this teacher bully him more. He got through 4th grade with little more humiliation simply because he kept his mouth shut and never asked questions any more...sad! This year he's in 6th grade and the teacher he had for 4th grade is teaching his science class and the teacher is already starting in with little jabs about some of the students based on their behavior or personalities from 4th grade...of course in front of the class. Wow, does someone need some attention?

Charlotte Caulfield: Parenting Squabbling Siblings - Tips

nospam@example.com (Charlotte Caulfield) — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 17:03:19 -0700

Hi there, I am totally with you with the no spanking. I was telling my mum the other day about my 2.4yr old son hitting me and her reply was "hit him back"! I tried to explain to her the reason behind why he was hitting me. He knows he isn't meant to hit and goes to time out or I put him out of the room where I am, but she just doesn't get it. I can't wait till my son is able to talk properly so I can start to teach him how to voice his emotions so he can let me know how he is feeling!

lori: 7 Year old cries a lot

nospam@example.com (lori) — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 20:06:51 -0700

My seven year old son cries alot. I can completly relate with the parent. It is something you worry about when everyday your child cries at school over something as small as one child getting all the sticks. Kids don't want to play with the boy who will cry. Everyone says don't worry they will grow out of it but lets face it we all remember the kid in kindergarden who stayed behind and repeated it. I don't want my kid to be remembered as the kid who cried everyday.

: Tears and Tantrums

nospam@example.com () — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 16:31:23 -0700

This is great stuff! My husband and I were wondering what was happenig to our son who just turned 7. He was very tough as a toddler and hardly ever cried. Now he whines and crys about everything. My daughter who is 3 calls him baby and she soes not cry as much as he does. I am hoping he will outgrow this and learn to display his emotions with words.

LJS: Tears and Tantrums

nospam@example.com (LJS) — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 23:49:15 -0700

Thanks for the article, It was important to hear the part about not bottling up emotions otherwise later in life, that could mess up a kid

tammie: Tears and Tantrums

nospam@example.com (tammie) — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 00:11:34 -0700

my two year old daughter cries all the time and i don't know what is wrong.she gets up at night and scamming and then cant go back to sleep.what can i do about this. Thank you.

Suzanna: Parenting Tip - Get your kids to bed early

nospam@example.com (Suzanna) — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 21:10:04 -0700

I did this one time, my kids had slept over at a friend's house and were up 'til all hours and super crabby the next day. It worked like a charm. Glad to see I'm not the only sneaky mom.